How to be free from desire

Here's my article for June:

It's time for another football World Cup: which will be a cause for rejoicing for those who can't get enough of football and despair for those who have had enough of football!  I've mentioned previously about football chants but as well as adapting lyrics to popular songs, football fans also adopt songs as their own.

Famously, Liverpool fans sing “You'll never walk alone” from the musical Carousel; West Ham fans sing “I'm forever blowing bubbles”; Hibernian fans sing “Sunshine on Leith”; and Newcastle fans sing “Blaydon Races.”  Other songs transcend individual clubs and are sung by many fans, such as “We are the Champions” and “Sweet Caroline.” Another song in this latter category is “Freed from desire.”

When I was chaplain to the Scunthorpe United Academy, the U18s team would often play this song as part of their pre-match playlist.  This always struck me as slightly odd as although the the music and rhythm are invigorating, the wish to be freed from desire doesn't seem to be the best motivation for going into a competitive match!  I'm sure that it will be said many times during the World Cup that poor performances from teams are because of a lack of desire.

The song itself is actually a reflection of Eastern spirituality, especially Buddhism – that's the 'strong beliefs' referred to.  The singer's love has been freed from the desire for money, power and fame, and his mind and senses have been purified, unlike other people who just want more and more.  This seems to be similar to Jesus' teaching “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.  But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven” (Matthew 5:19-20), and also to the apostle Paul's “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things” (Colossians 3:2).

However, the reason these desires should be avoided in Buddhism is because never-ending desires and cravings that cannot be quenched cause suffering.  Buddha taught that even the desire not to desire is in itself a desire, and as such a source of suffering.  Therefore the solution is to cultivate non-attachment to everything – including the idea that there is a permanent essence of anything.

In contrast, the Bible teaches us that the created world was good and that humans made it very good, because we are made in the image and likeness of God (Genesis 1 and 2).  We are created to be in eternal relationship with God, but humanity's sin has corrupted us and the world.  Therefore our desires are now not for God but for earthly 'treasures.'  The good news, however, is that through trust in Jesus' death and resurrection, we can be freed from those desires and enjoy the abundant, eternal life with God that we were created for.

image by Prawny from Pixabay

The Inspired Life

Here's my article for May:

When we hear about people achieving amazing things we often describe them as being 'inspired' particularly in the fields of art, literature, ideas and music.   The word 'inspire' comes from the Latin meaning 'to breathe into' and was originally used to describe divine beings breathing ideas, virtues or talents into, usually, humans.  This feature of pagan myths is a glimpse of the full truth that we find in the Bible.

The Creation stories teach that the difference between humanity and the rest of creation is that we are made in the image and likeness of God and that he breathed life into us (Genesis 1:26-27 and 2:7), so all of us have been 'inspired' by God.  What's more, the Hebrew (and Greek) word for 'breath' can also mean 'spirit', and so in this context we have been created with God's holy spirit.

As the biblical story unfolds, God's holy spirit is revealed to be more than just a poetic way of talking about being 'inspired' in his likeness.   The Holy Spirit is shown to be a personal divine being who is both one with God the Father and God the Son, and also differentiated from them – the Christian doctrine of the Trinity.   Jesus taught his disciples about the Holy Spirit on the night before he died (John 14-16), and this month we will be celebrating the feast of Pentecost, when after Jesus' death, resurrection and ascension, the Holy Spirit came down upon the disciples and empowered them to tell others about Jesus.  The rest of the New Testament (mostly letters written to the small fledgling Christian communities) speak about how the true followers of Jesus are indwelt by the Holy Spirit, who inspires and equips them to trust in Jesus and live in obedience to him.

So the question we need to ask ourselves is, who or what is inspiring us?  Or perhaps, to use a popular term, who is influencing us?  Greek culture valued wisdom - Luke described those in Athens as being people who “spent their time doing nothing but talking about and listening to the latest ideas” (Acts 17:21)!  But Paul, writing to the church in the Greek city of Corinth, speaks about two types of wisdom: wisdom that comes from God through the Holy Spirit and the “wisdom of this age” which he says is “coming to nothing” (1 Corinthians 2).  This transitory nature of the wisdom of the world is clearly seen as we think back to ideas, trends and characteristics that were once commended but now seem ridiculous and even immoral.  Think for example of the gladiatorial games or the practice of leaving babies on rocks to die simply because they were female.

Jesus describes this contrast using the illustration of houses (Matthew 7:24-27).  The life inspired by the wisdom of Jesus' teaching is like a house built on the sure foundation of rock.   The life inspired by the wisdom of the world is like a house built on sand.  Only one is a truly wise life, able to weather the storm. Which wisdom is inspiring you?

Pictures of Easter

Here's my article for April:

There are many images associated with Easter: bunnies, chicks, decorated eggs, bunches of Spring flowers; but often associated with the religious celebration of Easter is a picture of a hill with three crosses on it, and sometimes a rising sun behind it.  For those who aren't familiar with all the details of the Easter story, this can be a bit confusing.  They might know that Easter is something to do with the death of Jesus on a cross, but who are the other two crosses for?  Perhaps they are for two of his followers?  The answer is that “Two rebels were crucified with [Jesus], one on his right and one on his left” (Matthew 27:38).

The crime of these two men is translated many ways, and traditionally they are said to be thieves, however the translation above is probably closest to the truth.  We know this because crucifixion was the penalty for  rebels or revolutionaries, especially if they were slaves (think Spartacus!).   Jesus was charged with blasphemy by the Jewish religious leaders for claiming he was divine, but the Romans put him to death on a charge of treason for claiming to be the king (John 19:1-16).  Ironically he wasn't leading a rebellion and that was one of the reasons the Jewish leaders turned against him!

So Jesus was crucified along with guilty rebels, and in the place of another rebel, Barabbas, whose rebellion also involved murder (Luke 23:18-19).  So it is likely that they too were guilty of violent and murderous insurrection.  Today we might call them terrorists.

These terrorists were trying to overthrow the occupying Romans and regain an independent nation, and they looked for a Messiah, a warrior king, who would do exactly that.  However, Jesus didn't come as a nationalist leader.  But this makes the words of one of the rebels to Jesus even more appropriate: “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom” (Luke 23:42).  The terrorist realises that he had been fighting for the wrong kingdom, and instead wants to join Jesus in his kingdom.

Jesus was not offering a Jewish nationalistic alternative to a Roman colonialist system, but a kingdom that is “not of this world” (John 18:36).  He was misunderstood both by his people and by the Romans, and he continues to be misunderstood whenever he is appropriated to a political cause.  Jesus didn't come to be a left-wing alternative to a right-wing government, or vice-versa.  Jesus came to inaugurate a kingdom where he is king; where all ideologies and world-views are de-throned; and our ultimate allegiance is to God.

So if you see a picture of three crosses on a hill, you may want to ask yourself which kingdom you are fighting for, and perhaps to ask Jesus to join him in his.

Lent Reflections 2026: Palm Sunday and Humility

We have spent the past five weeks thinking about humility, and looking to Jesus as being both the exemplar of humility, and also the one whose Spirit enables us to to become more humble.

Today, we start Holy Week by remembering Jesus' entry into Jerusalem a few days before his death and resurrection. The Gospels record how Jesus came riding into the city, whilst the crowds lined the road, waving branches in celebration and laying their cloaks on the road as a carpet. They praised him as God's representative and hailed him as king. We call it Jesus' Triumphal Entry; not only does he enter in triumph but his entry is reminiscent of that of the Roman Emperor.

This doesn't seem to be very humble!! It's sometimes said that Jesus is showing his humility by riding a donkey rather than a horse, but the meaning of this (as we see from the quote from Zechariah 9:9) is that Jesus is coming gently and in peace, rather than on a horse, which symbolises war. The Zechariah quote also says that it is the king who comes on the donkey.

So, Jesus is clearly coming as king. He could have walked into Jerusalem along with everyone else; he could even have slipped into Jerusalem unnoticed, as he did in John 7:10. Instead, he deliberately sets up the situation in which through symbolism he claims to be the Messianic King, coming to the capital city Jerusalem to claim his throne. How can this be the actions of someone who is humble?

The answer comes most vividly as we read the second set of petitions in the Litany of Humility: freedom from the fear of being humiliated, despised, rebuked, calumniated, forgotten, ridiculed, wronged and suspected. Jesus knew he was the Messiah, and he knew that that meant that he would “be delivered over to the chief priests and the teachers of the law. They will condemn him to death and will hand him over to the Gentiles, who will mock him and spit on him, flog him and kill him” (Mark 10:33-34). He knew that his throne in Jerusalem would be the cross – above his head would be the words “Jesus of Nazareth, the King of the Jews” (John 19:19)

Jesus “humbled himself by becoming obedient to death – even death on a cross!” (Philippians 2:8), he was obedient to his Father, but he also humbled himself by putting our need for salvation above his desires for praise and even for life itself.   The proof of God's amazing love is that while we were sinners, Jesus died for us (Romans 5:8) – Jesus was hated so we could be loved.

Jesus rides into Jerusalem proclaiming himself as the Messianic King. But he would subvert the expectation of what that meant by pointing to what the Old Testament said about the coming Messiah. In doing so, he would show us what true humility looks like.

“This is our God, the Servant King. He calls us now to follow him.”

Lent Reflections 2026: The Litany of Humility 5

 

On our parish News Sheets this Lent, we're looking through the “Litany of Humility.”

A litany is a form of prayer with a repeated responsive petition and in the Book of Common Prayer, there is a litany that is “to be sung or said after Morning Prayer, upon Sundays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.”

The Litany of Humility, at least in this form, was written by Cardinal Rafael Merry del Val, the Secretary of State to Pope Pius X, in the early Twentieth Century. C. S. Lewis found this prayer particularly helpful, and many people use it as part of their daily prayer life, especially during Lent.

O Jesus, meek and humble of heart, Hear me.

From the desire of being esteemed, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being extolled, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being honoured, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being praised, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being preferred to others, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being consulted, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being approved, deliver me, O Jesus.

From the fear of being humiliated, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being despised, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of suffering rebukes, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being calumniated, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being forgotten, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being ridiculed, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being wronged, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being suspected, deliver me, O Jesus.

That others may be loved more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be esteemed more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That, in the opinion of the world, others may increase and I may decrease, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be chosen and I set aside, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be praised and I go unnoticed, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be preferred to me in everything, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

The Litany of Humility starts with asking Jesus to deliver us from un-humble desires, and it ends with asking for the grace of humble desires. In particular, we ask for the grace to desire that others 'succeed' more than us. The Litany takes us on a journey of ever-deepening humility: we start by asking to be delivered from the desire for praise; then for deliverance from the fear of disapproval; finally we pray that others would be preferred to us.

Gore Vidal famously said “Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies” which highlights how fragile our self-esteem can be especially when others do well.  And if this is true for our friends who we care about, how much more is it true for those we don't?  We might be able to cope with not receiving the praise we're due; we might even be able to cope with being despised; but it's really hard to want others to be loved, esteemed, praised and preferred more than us.  Humility is not just about being content with what we do or don't get, it is also about wanting others to succeed. And so we have to pray for the grace to desire it.

It is a grace because it is something we don't deserve.  We are naturally competitive, our instincts are self-centred and self-interested. James writes “What causes fights and quarrels among you?  Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight” (James 4:1-2).  Our fallen human nature deserves eternal punishment, but not only does God mercifully not demand that punishment from us, to those who trust in Jesus he graciously gives his Holy Spirit, to transform those desires into conformity with his own.  “Those who live as their human nature tells them to, have their minds controlled by what human nature wants. Those who live as the Spirit tells them to, have their minds controlled by what the Spirit wants” (Romans 8:5 Good News Translation).

So again, Jesus is our model.  Although he is God, he emptied himself and became human, and more than that, he became a servant, who was content to die to take the punishment we deserve for our human nature (Philippians 2:5-8 and Mark 10:45).  So if he can lay aside his divine glory so that we can be forgiven and exalted, we should also lay aside our petty pretensions and rejoice when others increase and we decrease.  However, his example is an impossibly high standard for us to follow so we need his grace, his Holy Spirit, to change us into his likeness.

We even need his grace to help us to desire to be like him. We can easily say the Litany of Humility without really meaning it, or adding 'exceptions' to the petitions.

Jesus, grant us the grace to desire humility, whatever the cost.

Lent Reflections 2026: The Litany of Humility 4

On our parish News Sheets this Lent, we're looking through the “Litany of Humility.”

A litany is a form of prayer with a repeated responsive petition and in the Book of Common Prayer, there is a litany that is “to be sung or said after Morning Prayer, upon Sundays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.”

The Litany of Humility, at least in this form, was written by Cardinal Rafael Merry del Val, the Secretary of State to Pope Pius X, in the early Twentieth Century. C. S. Lewis found this prayer particularly helpful, and many people use it as part of their daily prayer life, especially during Lent.

O Jesus, meek and humble of heart, Hear me.

From the desire of being esteemed, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being extolled, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being honoured, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being praised, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being preferred to others, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being consulted, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being approved, deliver me, O Jesus.

From the fear of being humiliated, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being despised, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of suffering rebukes, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being calumniated, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being forgotten, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being ridiculed, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being wronged, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being suspected, deliver me, O Jesus.

That others may be loved more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be esteemed more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That, in the opinion of the world, others may increase and I may decrease, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be chosen and I set aside, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be praised and I go unnoticed, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be preferred to me in everything, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

Alongside the fear of disapproval, in the second section of petitions we also ask Jesus to deliver us from the fear of being calumniated, wronged and suspected. These are similar to the fear of disapproval but carry with them the sense of unjust suffering. But again we're not asking to be delivered from unjust suffering, but we're asking to not let the fear of unjust suffering stop us from following God's ways.

This is a great reminder that becoming a Christian doesn't mean that our life becomes trouble-free. Indeed in some ways the opposite is true. Jesus tells us that following him means denying ourselves and taking up our cross (Mark 8:34), and that we will face unjust persecution just as he did (John 15:20). This means that not only will we face the normal difficulties of life, but that we will also face suffering when we do what is right and good. When we live as God wants us to live, and share our faith as he has commanded us to do, we may encounter not just ridicule, but our motives might be twisted and it may result in things like broken relationships, loss of social standing, or damage to careers.

Peter wrote “if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed...it is better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil” (1 Peter 3:14,17). If we are afraid of such consequences we may shy away from living out our faith as whole-heartedly as we should.

One way God answers this prayer for deliverance from fear is to give us examples, both in the Bible and throughout the history of the Church, of those for whom following God's ways led to suffering. Stephen was the first of many Christian martyrs (Acts 6-7); Paul speaks of his sufferings for the gospel in 2 Corinthians 11:23-27; in Revelation, John describes himself as a “companion in the suffering” (Revelation 1:9) along with the churches he is writing to.

Another way God helps us is to show us that we don't have to 'grin and bear' this suffering, or, as Kipling would have it, to treat Triumph and Disaster as if they are the same. Instead, God caused words of anger, frustration and bemoaning to be recorded as part of Holy Scripture – indeed there is a whole book called Lamentations! The Psalms in particular give expression to these feelings: Psalm 13:1-2 says “How long will my enemy triumph over me?”; Psalm 73:3,13,14 says “I envied the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. Surely in vain I have kept my heart pure...All day long I have been afflicted”.

However, most famously Psalm 22 starts with “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”, which takes us to the ultimate example of undeserved suffering: Jesus. He is the reason Peter says we should suffer for doing good. And if we share in his sufferings we will also share in his glory (Romans 8:17).

Lent Reflections 2026: The Litany of Humility 3

On our parish News Sheets this Lent, we're looking through the “Litany of Humility.”

A litany is a form of prayer with a repeated responsive petition and in the Book of Common Prayer, there is a litany that is “to be sung or said after Morning Prayer, upon Sundays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.”

The Litany of Humility, at least in this form, was written by Cardinal Rafael Merry del Val, the Secretary of State to Pope Pius X, in the early Twentieth Century. C. S. Lewis found this prayer particularly helpful, and many people use it as part of their daily prayer life, especially during Lent.

O Jesus, meek and humble of heart, Hear me.

From the desire of being esteemed, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being extolled, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being honoured, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being praised, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being preferred to others, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being consulted, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the desire of being approved, deliver me, O Jesus.

From the fear of being humiliated, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being despised, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of suffering rebukes, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being calumniated, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being forgotten, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being ridiculed, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being wronged, deliver me, O Jesus.
From the fear of being suspected, deliver me, O Jesus.

That others may be loved more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be esteemed more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That, in the opinion of the world, others may increase and I may decrease, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be chosen and I set aside, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be praised and I go unnoticed, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may be preferred to me in everything, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

The second section of petitions ask Jesus to deliver us from the fear of certain things, though we're not talking about phobias. It makes sense for us to want to be delivered from ungodly or un-humble desires, as we pray in the first section But why pray to be delivered from fears?

The answer comes from looking at what those fears are: being humiliated, despised, rebuked and ridiculed. These are all opposites of the desires for praise and approval in the first petition. Humility means not just that we are happy not to have acclaim, but that we are content even if we have the opposite, even if we are despised and disapproved of.

But we are not asking that we are not humiliated, instead we are asking to be delivered from the fear of being humiliated. We are asking that the fear of disapproval doesn't dictate our actions, or lack of actions. Just as the desire for popularity and approval can lead us to act wrongly and not act rightly, so too can the fear of disapproval or ridicule.

In some ways the fear of disapproval is more powerful than the desire for approval. We often do things that get no recognition, and although that is disappointing, it doesn't stop us from doing them again. We can also do things in the knowledge that we will get no recognition for them, and we can even do things deliberately so that we get no recognition. As long as we don't act this way for smug self-satisfaction and a sense of superiority over 'approval-seekers', these are humble ways of behaving. However, we are more reluctant to do things deliberately that will draw criticism, even if it the right thing to do. The reason good people remain silent, allowing evil to triumph, is often because of the fear of the repercussions. In extreme times that might be persecution, loss of livelihood or even death, but more commonly good people remain silent or don't act because of a fear of disapproval or ridicule.

This is particularly seen when it comes to matters of faith. People are often afraid of whole-heartedly committing to being a Christian, because they know that that will mean a huge change in their lives, and they don't want to be seen as 'radical' or 'fundamentalist.' So instead they say they are a Christian but don't let it affect the way they live. Fear also stops people sharing their faith with their non-believing family and friends, whether that's the fear of not knowing answers to difficult questions, and therefore looking stupid, or again the fear of ridicule.

The apostle Paul wrote that he continued to preach Christ crucified even though it was a stumbling-block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles (1 Corinthians 1:18-31), and he suffered much for doing so (2 Corinthians 11:23-27). And the Litany also helps us become more like Jesus, who also was not afraid to speak and act even though it led to him being despised and rejected.