I am the Rector of two of the three churches in the world dedicated to St Hybald, one of which (Hibaldstow) contains his remains. This blog is mainly for my monthly parish magazine articles.

Disclaimer: Calling myself "Hybald's Rector" does not imply that St Hybald would agree with everything I say!!

Thursday, 19 March 2020

The worst thing about A&E waiting rooms

Here's my article for the March magazine:

Sitting in a hospital A&E waiting room is a great chance to think - that is, as long as you're not in agony! All sorts of people come and go; you see the doctors, nurses and other staff beavering away; and you catch snippets of why people have ended up there, then try to fill in the gaps.

In one way the A&E department is a great leveller. Young and old, rich and poor, clumsy and careful - anyone can find themselves there, often through no fault of their own. And you get prioritised for treatment there on the basis of how urgent your need is, not on how clever or pretty or popular you are. But this fact is also what makes A&E waiting rooms sometimes very frustrating places to be and ones that induce many negative feelings, alongside the physical pain.

We all understand that the order you will be seen in depends on the merits, or demerits, of your problem. But the longer you have to wait there, the more you start trying to second-guess what people's needs are. As you look around the waiting room you rank the people there according to your perception of their condition and other factors such as age, and place yourself mentally in that list too. Then when people you think are less of a priority than you get called to triage or for treatment ahead of you, feelings of disappointment and puzzlement start to well up inside you. The longer this goes on and the more this happens, those feelings of disappointment turn into frustration and anger. So when you came in you were quite willing to accept that those with more serious problems would be seen first but now every time someone else gets called, you have to fight the urge to stand up and shout “What about me? I'm more deserving than they are!!” A system that's designed to be fair ends up arousing feelings of anger and envy.

Lent is an opportunity for us to face up to our faults and failings. Although we will often say that “nobody's perfect” (or as the Bible puts it “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” [Romans 3:23]), we also like to rank ourselves in comparison with others and our perception of their sins. With this mindset the gospel of Jesus becomes very offensive. We are like the prodigal son's older brother who complains that his father forgives the rebellious son (Luke 15:11-32); or like the workers who work all day in the vineyard and complain that those who have only worked for one hour get the same pay (Matthew 20:1-16). We like the idea of forgiveness, but only when it is offered to those we think deserve it! This was the reason Jonah ran away: he didn't want God to forgive the evil Ninevehites (Jonah 4:1-2)! Whenever we feel like that, we've forgotten that God doesn't need a triage unit: all of us have the same condition – sin; all of us have the same prognosis – death sentence; and all of us need the same remedy – forgiveness through the Divine Physician, who was crushed for our sins and by whose wounds we are healed. (Isaiah 53:4-6).

So this Lent, let us admit to our own failings, including our feelings of superiority and good-enough-ness; ask God for forgiveness; and find in him healing and new life.

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