War, bridesmaids and Jesus' return

Here is the sermon I preached at this year's Remembrance Service at Hibaldstow - the readings for the service were 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 and Matthew 25:1-13. The whole service can be viewed here:

As we gather for this year's Remembrance Service we are very aware of the war that's going on in Israel and Gaza at the moment, as well as the continuing war in Ukraine.  And so you might have come here wondering what the Christian faith might have to say into those situations, or to us as we look on.

If so, you might be slightly puzzled that the reading we've just had is Jesus talking about bridegrooms, virgins and oil lamps!  Just to explain, I didn't choose the readings – in church we have set readings for each Sunday and these are the ones set for today.  However, I do think that they do have something to say to us at this time.

But first let's unpack Jesus' story a little bit, because it's describing a very different culture to our own.  In Jesus' culture, the bridegroom would leave his house, go to his bride's house, they would have the marriage ceremony and then he would process back to his house with her for the wedding feast.  This journey would go a scenic route around the village or villages so that the whole community could greet the couple.  Because it was hot, the bridegroom would often not set off until it was cooler in the evening, so by the time he got back again it would be late at night, therefore the bridesmaids who were waiting for the couple to arrive for the feast would have to keep watch with lamps burning in the night.

This is all very alien to our way of doing weddings, but perhaps you might be familiar with the song “Give me oil in my lamp, keep me burning” - and if you've ever been puzzled by those lyrics, you might understand them more if you know that they're based on this parable of Jesus'.  However, this reference and meaning are slightly obscured when the lyrics are changed from asking for oil “till the break of day”, to asking for oil “till the end of day”  In the parable the lamps are needed till the break of day not the end of day because this is a parable about waiting.

Jesus has taught that he's going to die, be resurrected and then go back to his Father before returning at the end of time, for the Final Judgement and the start of the eternal kingdom of God, where there will be no more sin or death.  His disciples have asked him what the signs will be that he is about to return, and he says there will be no signs.  The day and hour are unknown, his return will be unexpected, but when he does return we will all know about it.  As Paul says in our first reading Jesus will return “with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God.”

This parable gives us a picture of waiting for something that will definitely happen, but at an unknown time.  The bridegroom will return but the bridesmaids don't know when.  So what are they to do in the meantime?  They are to keep their lamps lit.

That's not the most helpful piece of advice for us!  But by describing the bridesmaids as being either wise or foolish, Jesus reminds us of an earlier parable (which also has a song about it!!): the parable of the wise and foolish builders.  The wise man built his house upon the rock; the foolish man built his house upon sand and when the storm came only the house on the rock survived.  Jesus explained “everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”

The way the wise keep their lamps lit is to hear Jesus' words and obey them.  To hear and obey his commands to love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.  It is to love your neighbour as yourself, including loving and praying for your enemies and those who persecute you.  But most of all it is to recognise not just the wrong things that others do, but to recognise our own sins and failings; to realise that in God's eyes all sins are equal, because his standard is perfection.  Unless we are perfect as God himself is perfect none of us deserve to enter into his eternal kingdom of peace.

But Paul reminds us in the next chapter of his letter to the Thessalonians the God doesn't want us to be punished for our sins, but wants us to be saved by Jesus: for Jesus died for us, he died in our place, to take the punishment we deserved.

The wedding feast image is not an accident.  Jesus the bridegroom has gone out to get his bride, us.  We are not able to come to the wedding feast unless we are his bride, unless we've joined ourselves to him, as a man is joined to his wife.  If we have joined ourselves to him, we stop using our old name of 'sinner' and take on his name 'holy'.

But what's all this got to do with war and conflict?  It is only in and through Jesus that there will be a solution to the wars and conflicts we have, because it is only through repentance that we can be being transformed into the likeness of our perfect bridegroom.  And as we wait for his return, as we wait for the dawn of his reign of perfect peace and justice, we are to continue to be wise; listening to and obeying Jesus.

Two minutes silence or two minutes applause?

Here's my article for the November magazines:

I'm often asked if I get nervous before taking services, to which I honestly reply that I very rarely do except for being perpetually worried about getting people's names wrong at weddings, baptisms and funerals!

However, one service I do get nervous about is the Remembrance Service, partly because of the solemnity of the day and also the complexity of the service, involving many different people, but mostly because of the two-minutes silence.  This seemingly simple element of the service presents a multitude of potential disasters.  Firstly, there's the matter of timing the silence for 11.00am: there can be many things of variable length happening before the silence; processions, wreath-laying, roll call, the Last Post, etc..  This matter of timing is made worse if there is a clock nearby (which may or may not be right!) and also phones or watches beeping the hour.  Generally people don't mind if the timing of the silence is out, but there are some who will vocally and forcefully complain if it is not precise.  Then there is the matter of timing the length of silence itself: who is doing it? do you give the signal to the bugler in time for them to start at the end of the two-minutes, or at the end and risk having a slightly longer silence?  And then there's the nervousness about the silence itself – what if someone shouts something out during it?  I'm getting panicky just thinking about it!

The two-minutes silence for Remembrance originated in Cape Town, South Africa in 1918 but the idea reached Britain in time for the first anniversary of the signing of the armistice in 1919 and has remained a permanent feature of Remembrance services ever since.  Observing a silence to remember those who have died has also become commonplace for local, national and international purposes, particularly at sporting events.  Silences are very useful for public observances because they contain no statements or assumptions concerning beliefs: people can use that time to pray or meditate or reflect as they see fit.

However, a time of silence is increasingly being replaced by a time of applause.  This may have pragmatic reasons, e.g. it avoids the problem of people jeering during a silence, but it may also reflect a wider cultural shift.  Funerals, although called such for simplicity, are increasingly entitled on the order of service “A service to celebrate the life of...”; replacing mourning the death of someone with thinking about their life.  Whilst it is certainly beneficial to recall memories of those who have died, it seems to me that this shift is partly due to a loss of clarity about what happens after death.  If we are silent in the face of death we might be confronted with the fear of the unknown, so we drown it out with applause and celebration.

For those who believe and trust in Jesus there is the promise of eternal life with him (John 3:16), and so there is no fear in being silent in the face of death.  Death is sad but it is no longer an enemy: it is a friend that ushers us into the joy and pleasure that lasts forever.